How to Make Your Man Commit

how-to-make-him-commitIt has been months, possibly even years, since you have met your favorite guy. You spend your weekends together enjoying the spoils of free-spirited romance and lazy afternoons. It seems like nothing can spoil what you have outside of your constant fear that he isn’t going to fully commit to you.

So, what does it take for a man to truly commit to the the woman he is dating?

Most of the time, what men desire the most is a woman who inspires them to be their best self. However, being a woman of wonder is very far from the mindset of most modern women these days. What’s the major error that trips countless deserving women up in their quest for love?


As in, their focus is on the wrong things. Instead of focusing on the feelings and experiences they are creating with their man, many women fixate on their own wants, needs, and worries. Amidst this completely self-absorbed mindset, there is no room for a man to feel comfortable or understood and his interest quickly deflates.

Fun dates, dinners, exciting sex, and an openness to communicate your own commitment might not penetrate a man’s psychology on a deep and meaningful level. If you really want your man to commit you need to want more than a ring on your finger- you need to understand and master the art of tapping into his heart and soul.

Remember: your guy still has a choice.

Who they choose to commit to is a large part of who they want to be in the future. If you man isn’t ready to commit, they might not know who they are or who they want to be yet. Pushing is not going to get you anywhere. Part of learning how to find partners that are willing to commit is on you! You need to get really good at understanding the realities of your partner.

Listen to him!

As men get older their values change. Young men may still be looking to have a good time but men that are looking for a committed partner often want someone who is understanding and who listens to them. Compatibility is a must! They want to know that they can be there for you and that, when push comes to shove, you have their back as well.

You have to let go of your fear.

Most of the time, when women are pushing their guy to commit, they are afraid and full of self-doubt. Those emotions can sometimes cover up the real problem- that you guys just aren’t compatible. If that is the case, its time to move on and not waste anymore of your valuable time. If you are compatible- then there is probably nothing to really worry about.  Moreover, pushing your guy to commit will only make him want to pull away from you.

Let’s run through a couple “commitment tactics” that don’t work:

  • Ultimatums
  • Phone Stalking
  • Actual Stalking
  • Fits of Anger
  • Guilt Trips

If this person doesn’t make you feel like your best self, the first step to this problem might be self-reflection. If the relationship seems like it is headed into exciting new territory, wait it out! Being honest doesn’t mean you have to be pushy.

And if the guy is just not willing to commit- it’s time to let it go. You do not need to waste anymore of your time.